LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS
Long distance dating relationships are increasingly common. However, physical distance creates certain risks to these relationships.
Every one of us is exposed to falling in love with someone who lives or decides to go on the other side of the planet.
Two choices versus one decision:
Breaking up, or believing in the power of love.
One thing is for sure, if the relation is not serious enough to lead anywhere, then it is not worth the shot.
For the ones who decide to take the long distance trip, they will face so many moments of doubts, jealousy, loneliness, pain rewarded by intense moments of reunion.
POSITIVE ASPECTS
You have more time for your career, friends, hobbies and family.
This is a seriousness test on whether or not you are committed and suitable for each other and you learn to treasure the rare moments together.
You really get to discover each other through communication.
THE RISKS
One person might be faithful, while the other is not. While this is a risk in any romantic relationship, it's a much bigger risk due to the ease with which it can be carried out.
The cost of the plane tickets price and the time difference between overseas.
Because there is less contact involved in a long distance relationship, the meaning of gifts takes on that extra bit of importance. Gifts become a need to demonstrate their feelings. Therefore financing a long distance relationship is to be considered.
Another risk is that one or both people in the relationship will be miserable all the time. This happens because they find themselves wanting to physically be with the other person, but unable due to distance between them. The result can be two very sad and frustrated people.
Jealousy... Even if trust exists, jealousy just comes along with love and fear of losing the person we love.
A bit of jealousy will certainly keep the flame going on but any slight excess of it will just be a sign of lack of trust and will lead to oppress the partner who will ultimately seek for his freedom.
Jealousy will doom the whole relation to failure. That said, obsessive phone calls or messages every hour is stalking, not talking.
RULES OF THE GAME
REVIEW THE SITUATION
It is time to see how serious you both are about this relationship.
It is important to set a time period for this romantic distance and to be able to handle it.
Some people just can’t stay alone. In that case better to stop the whole thing immediately rather than to cut it slowly.
TRUST
Without trust on both ends, this long-distance relationship is doomed.
If he suddenly transforms into a paranoid freak, it means trust is lacking either because you are giving him a good reason or he needs to make himself busy.
SHARE MOST OF EVERYTHING
Sharing your daily life will keep you closer to each other. Solving problems together will make you stronger. If you can both achieve this kind of complicity on long distance, then you will be able to face anything when you’ll be together.
JEALOUSY
Don’t try to hide your jealousy, it will kill you. Don’t also express it often; it will kill the whole relation. Just keep trusting yourself first and your partner second. Being or trying to make the other jealous will only poison the situation, proving that it will not last long.
STAY IN TOUCH OFTEN
Call each other at least once a day. Emails, text messages and few what’s up will partially compensate the distance. Don’t obsessively call and message.
MAKE REUNIONS COUNT
It’s important to enjoy the expectation that comes with waiting. Make sure when you do meet up, you treat it as quality time together, and not catch-up time with the rest of the planet. Think “love nest,” not “family and friend potluck.”
QUICK SOLUTIONS
Try to deal with issues as they arise rather than waiting to spring them on him like a cold shower when you’re finally together.
KEEP TALKING
Distance can weaken even the strongest link. Patience and priority are two “game plan” words. It’s important to keep sharing your fears and hopes.
DREAM TOGETHER
Share your future dreams and plans. Just make sure you’re both planning the same thing, otherwise you might be left with delusions rather than dreams.
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